Relationships

Genna Marie • December 1, 2024

Exploring the Spectrum of Relationships: Beyond Black and White

When we think about relationships, society often encourages a binary perspective: married or single, committed or unattached, “traditional” or unconventional. Yet the reality is far more nuanced. Relationships exist on a spectrum, influenced by personal experiences, cultural norms, and evolving societal values. However, what happens when a relationship doesn’t fit neatly into these predefined boxes? Discomfort. Judgment. Curiosity.

As a life and relationship coach, I’ve worked with countless individuals and couples navigating the complexities of relationships that defy traditional labels. Time and again, I’ve seen how societal expectations can create pressure or confusion for those whose relationships fall outside the “norm.” My role is to help people identify their goals and values so they can approach their relationships with clarity, confidence, and authenticity.

The Many Types of Relationships

Relationships can take many forms, all equally valid. Some of these include:

1. Romantic Partnerships: These range from monogamous marriages to long-term committed partnerships, open relationships, or

non-monogamy.

2. Friendships: Deep, platonic bonds can be just as fulfilling and meaningful as romantic ones.

3. Chosen Family: For many, a chosen family—a network of close friends who feel like family—provides the emotional support they don’t receive from biological relatives.

4. Situationships: A term gaining popularity, this describes relationships that don’t have a defined status but still hold significance for those involved.

5. Co-parenting or Platonic Partnerships: Some people choose to share parenting responsibilities or life commitments with a close friend rather than a romantic partner.

6. Self-Relationship: Arguably the most important, this focuses on self-love and personal growth, which influences all other relationships.

In my work, I encourage clients to explore where their relationships fall on this spectrum and reflect on whether their connections truly align with their values and needs.

Society’s Discomfort with the “Different”

Society’s unease often manifests as unsolicited advice, judgment, or skepticism: “Why haven’t you settled down?” “Are you sure this is sustainable?” These questions reveal how deeply ingrained traditional relationship models remain.

The discomfort often arises because “different” relationships challenge the norms we’ve been taught to accept. They ask us to rethink assumptions about love, commitment, and success. They remind us that there’s no universal “right way” to connect with others.

As a coach, I help my clients navigate this societal discomfort, providing them with tools to build confidence in their choices and develop resilience in the face of judgment. By embracing their unique paths, they often find deeper fulfillment and alignment with their personal values.

Embracing the Spectrum

Recognizing the diversity in relationships is an act of compassion and openness. It starts by letting go of the need to label or judge and instead focusing on understanding.

1. Start with curiosity:

When encountering a relationship dynamic that’s unfamiliar, ask yourself, “What can I learn from this?” rather than “Why it this like mine?”

2. Support over judgment: People thrive when their relationships are respected and valued, even if those relationships look different from your own.

3. Redefine success: A successful relationship is one that meets the emotional needs of those involved— not one that fits a societal mold.

In my coaching practice, I encourage clients to embrace curiosity and redefine success for themselves. This mindset shift is often the key to feeling empowered in their relationships.

Finding Your Path

Whether you’re in a relationship that challenges traditional norms or questioning your own, know that the discomfort is part of growth. Relationships aren’t about fitting in—they’re about finding what fits you. And when you embrace the spectrum of possibilities, you open the door to deeper, more authentic connections.

As a life and relationship coach and sex educator, I’m here to guide you through this journey. Together, we can untangle the expectations, honor your unique needs, and build relationships that truly reflect who you are. Because in the end, isn’t the beauty of relationships found in their diversity?

Staying Grounded in Uncomfortable Conversations

By Genna Marie • July 27, 2025

How to hold onto yourself when things get tense Uncomfortable conversations are a part of life. Whether it’s a disagreement with a partner, an awkward talk with a family member, or confronting a friend who crossed a line — tough moments will find us. And when they do, it’s easy to lose your footing. You might find yourself going silent to avoid conflict, saying things you don’t mean, or walking away feeling drained and unsettled. But what if you could stay grounded, clear, and true to yourself — even when the conversation feels messy or hard? ⸻ 1. Anchor Yourself Before You Speak Before the conversation even starts, check in with yourself: • What am I feeling right now? • What do I hope will come from this conversation? • What do I want to make sure I don’t compromise on? Example Practice: Take 3 minutes to write in your notes app: • “I feel frustrated because I haven’t felt heard.” • “I want more understanding — not just to be ‘right.’” • “I don’t want to leave this conversation doubting my worth.” Even this brief prep work can shift your entire approach. ——— 2. Lead With Curiosity, Not Defense It’s natural to feel defensive when something lands the wrong way. But instead of jumping in with: “That’s not true.” Try: “Can you say more about what you mean?” “I hear you — but I’m not sure I understand yet.” This keeps the conversation from spiraling and helps you stay present without needing to agree. Example Practice: Pause for just 5 seconds before replying — and choose a “curious opener” instead of a rebuttal. Write a few go-to lines you can use when your emotions rise: • “I want to understand your point, but I’m having a reaction right now.” • “Let’s slow this down — this matters to me.” ⸻ 3. Listen to Hear — Not Just to Respond In uncomfortable conversations, it’s easy to listen while preparing your defense. But when we do that, we miss the actual message — and conversations become battles instead of bridges. Example Practice: Try this during your next tough conversation: • When they finish speaking, repeat back what you heard: “What I’m hearing is that you felt left out when I didn’t include you in that decision. Is that right?” • Let them clarify if needed. Only then — after they feel heard — share your perspective. This doesn’t mean you have to agree. It means you’re choosing connection over combat. ⸻ 4. Protect Your Calm Without Playing Small You can be calm and firm. You can hold your boundary without raising your voice. Example Practice: Practice a few lines aloud before the conversation — just like you’d rehearse a presentation: • “I want to continue this conversation, but not like this.” • “It’s important to me that we both feel respected — and I’m feeling a little overwhelmed right now.” • “Let’s pause. I want to respond with care, not defensiveness.” ______ How I Can Help If you’re facing a conversation that feels overwhelming, emotional, or uncomfortable — you don’t have to go in alone. I offer 1:1 coaching sessions to help you: • Sort through your thoughts and emotions beforehand • Understand your needs and how to express them • Prepare your language with confidence and care • Stay regulated and grounded — no matter the outcome Together, we’ll practice clarity without defensiveness. Boundaries without shutdown. Truth without fear. Message me to book a session. You deserve support that honors your voice — and your peace.