When Everything Feels Like “Too Much”: Finding Focus in the Overwhelm

There are seasons in life when everything seems to happen at once.

Deadlines pile up, emotions swirl, relationships need attention, your to-do list seems endless — and suddenly, focusing on one single thing feels almost impossible.

If you’ve ever sat staring at a task, knowing exactly what needs to be done but feeling paralyzed by everything else waiting behind it… you’re not alone.

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The Mental Load of “Too Much”

When we’re overwhelmed, our brains shift into survival mode. Instead of calmly prioritizing, we bounce between tasks, thoughts, and worries, hoping that somehow it will all get sorted out.

This creates what I call “mental traffic” — thoughts trying to merge, exit, and cut each other off all at once.

The result?

• You can’t focus long enough to make meaningful progress.

• Everything feels urgent, even when it’s not.

• You may start procrastinating — not out of laziness, but because your brain is fried.

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Why Focusing on One Thing Feels So Hard

Focusing requires clarity. But when everything feels like a priority, choosing where to start can feel like choosing the “wrong” thing.

• “What if I pick the wrong task?”

• “What about all the other things I’m ignoring?”

• “How can I focus when I’m already behind?”

This fear of “misplacing” your energy keeps you stuck in indecision, which only feeds the overwhelm further.

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The Shift: Choosing the Next Right Thing

One of the most helpful shifts I teach my clients is to stop searching for the “perfect” place to start, and instead focus on the next right thing.

        •        Not everything.

        •        Not forever.

        •        Just the next right step.

It could be something small like:

• Clearing your workspace.

• Sending one email.

• Drinking a glass of water and taking 3 deep breaths.

• Picking one task and setting a 15-minute timer.

Momentum doesn’t begin with giant leaps — it begins with one clear, intentional step.

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Practical Ways to Create Focus in Chaos

Here are a few techniques that can help when it all feels too much:

• Brain Dump First

Get every single thing out of your head and onto paper. No order needed — just unload. You can’t organize chaos that’s still swirling in your mind.

• Pick Your Top 1–3 Priorities

From that list, circle the one or two things that will have the biggest impact today. Not everything deserves your energy at once.

• Chunk It Down

Break big tasks into smaller, manageable steps. “Plan retreat” becomes “Choose date,” then “Book location,” then “Send invites.”

• Give Yourself Permission to Pause

Overwhelm often comes with guilt. It’s okay to pause, breathe, and collect yourself. Pausing isn’t failure — it’s strategy.

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Final Thoughts: You Don’t Have to Do It All at Once

When life feels like too much, the instinct is to try to do everything faster.

But the truth is — sustainable progress comes from slowing down just enough to choose intentionally.

Coaching can be especially powerful during these seasons. Together, we can clear the mental clutter, set focused priorities, and create realistic action steps that bring relief instead of pressure. You deserve to feel steady, not scattered. 

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 If this feels like where you are right now, I can help.

Let’s talk about creating a plan that actually works for your life.

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